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Asking for Help

The skill that carries all the others. A student who can ask for help stays safe in situations no curriculum covers. Five skills: knowing you need it, choosing who, asking clearly, waiting, and handling an answer you did not want.

5Skills
Calm daysWhen to teach
4Worksheets
12–16Ages

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PDF All-Day Plans One page per skill — what the morning teacher, afternoon teacher, social worker, para and principal each do Download
WORD Complete Teaching Guide All five skills in one document — editable Download
PDF Staff Phrase Card Every phrase on one page. Print one per staff member Download
PDF Asking for Help Chart The four steps — for the classroom wall Download
PDF Skill Tracker One per student — five tries plus a column for doing it alone Download
PDF Print Pack Every printable in this unit, in teaching order — one file to send to the copier Download
PDF Where to Start Placement checklist — tick what he already does, and it tells you which skill to teach first Download
PDF Family Sheets One send-home sheet per skill, carrying the exact phrases to parents Download
PDF IEP Goal Wording Three goals per skill, with the tracker named as the data source Download

Skill by skill

Know When You Need Help

Telling a small problem from a stuck one — and trying twice before asking.

WORD Skill 1 Guide “Are you stuck, or is it a small problem?” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Head up and ready to ask beside head in his hands — photo poster Download
PDF Worksheet: Solve It, or Ask? Eight situations to sort, plus one he is stuck on now Download
PDF Solve It or Ask Cards 12 situation cards for the sorting game Download

Choose Who to Ask

Matching the problem to the person — and knowing a backup for when they are not there.

WORD Skill 2 Guide “Who handles this one?” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Going to the teacher beside standing undecided — photo poster Download
PDF Worksheet: My Helpers He fills in yeshiva, home, and public, with backups Download

Ask Clearly

Getting attention first, then naming the thing instead of saying “it”.

WORD Skill 3 Guide “Excuse me, can you help me with —?” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Pointing at the exact line beside saying nothing — photo poster Download
PDF Worksheet: Asking Clearly Four vague requests to rewrite, plus his own sentence Download

Wait for Help

A wait is not a refusal — and the staff half is coming back exactly when you said.

WORD Skill 4 Guide “I heard you. Two minutes.” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Working while he waits beside interrupting — photo poster Download
PDF Worksheet: Waiting, and Hearing No What to do while waiting, and what to say to a no Download

Handle a No

Staying calm, asking once whether there is another way, and moving on.

WORD Skill 5 Guide “Is there another way?” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Hearing no calmly beside shutting down — photo poster Download

Read this before running the unit