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Table Manners

Five skills taught during real eating time, not as a separate lesson. Each one has the same shape: what it means, how to teach it, the exact words to use, and what success looks like. The wording matters more than the explanation — the same short phrase, every meal, from every staff member.

5Skills
MealsWhen to teach
ShortPhrases
12–16Ages

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PDF All-Day Plans One page per skill — what the morning teacher, afternoon teacher, social worker, para and principal each do Download
WORD Complete Teaching Guide All five skills in one document — editable Download
PDF Staff Phrase Card Every phrase on one page. Print one per staff member Download
PDF Table Skills Tracker One per student — tick when he does it without a reminder Download
PDF Good Manners or Not Yet? 12 sorting cards covering all five skills Download
PDF Print Pack Every printable in this unit, in teaching order — one file to send to the copier Download
PDF Where to Start Placement checklist — tick what he already does, and it tells you which skill to teach first Download
PDF Family Sheets One send-home sheet per skill, carrying the exact phrases to parents Download
PDF IEP Goal Wording Three goals per skill, with the tracker named as the data source Download

Skill by skill

Sit Properly at a Table

Feet on the floor, back on the chair, body facing the table, hands where they belong.

WORD Skill 1 Guide “Feet on the floor.” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Good sitting beside not yet — photo poster for the wall Download
PDF Sitting Chart The four points plus the phrases — for the wall by the table Download

Use the Correct Utensil

Fork for food, spoon for food — practised dry first, with hand-over-hand support if needed.

WORD Skill 2 Guide “Fork goes in the food.” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Fork and spoon beside fingers in the food — photo poster Download
PDF Utensil Chart Fork and spoon, what each one is for Download

Eat Neatly and Calmly

Four sub-skills: small bites, food on the plate, mouth closed, slow and calm movements.

WORD Skill 3 Guide “Small bite.” “Slow and calm.” — editable, with all four sub-skills Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Small bites beside an overfull mouth — photo poster Download
PDF Eating Neatly Chart All four, each with the phrase that goes with it Download
IMAGE Clean vs Not Clean — Eating Your own visual — the clearest way to show the difference Download

Keep Themselves and the Table Clean

Napkin, hands, table — taught as part of the eating routine rather than a separate job.

WORD Skill 4 Guide “All done — clean up.” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster A clean table beside a messy one — photo poster Download
PDF Cleanup Chart The same three steps at the end of every meal Download

Practise Polite Table Behaviour

Quiet voice, personal space, waiting calmly — built on two or three rules, no more.

WORD Skill 5 Guide “Nice waiting.” — editable Download
PDF Do / Not Yet Poster Waiting his turn beside reaching across — photo poster Download
PDF Table Rules Poster Three rules, large enough to read from any seat Download

How this unit is different